Have the right attitude. Attitude is what makes the difference between
a painful experience becoming a failure or a success. You can let the
failure leave you timid and afraid to step out again for fear of being
hurt or you can determine that your failure will be your teacher.
You can allow your failures to hurt you or help you. True, you need
mountaintop experiences from time to time to give you encouragement,
but you don't grow through these. It is in the valley of your
disappointments and through your failures that you are given the
opportunity to take stock of your life and move toward a greater level
of growth and maturity.
Know what your purpose in life is. The more clearly defined that
purpose is - and the more deeply it is embedded in your conscious and
unconscious mind - the less failure will set you back.
A spacecraft en route to the moon is off course 90 percent of the time.
It's pulled back by the earth's gravity. It's continually drawn to one
side or the other by other forces. But it has a built-in computer that
has a singleness of purpose that homes in on the moon. The computer is
making continual corrections to keep the spacecraft on target with its
purpose and goal.
Lives are like that. If your eye is on your goal, if you have a
singleness of purpose, nothing will stop you getting to where you are
going.
Remember that failure is an event, not a person. Because you may have
failed in your marriage or job, in another relationship, or other
situation, doesn't mean that you are a failure as a person. Not at all.
Realize that the only real failure is not to try, or not to keep on
trying, or not to get up one more time. The important thing is to learn
from your past, to use it as an opportunity to grow, and to move ahead.
Then turn your failure into a stepping stone toward a better you.
Where a bone is broken and heals, it becomes the strongest part of the
bone. The same is true of your broken places - where you have been
hurt, have fallen and failed, or are afraid. Decide to make sure you
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